Being a single active father is the best gift in the world. I have no respect for donors or men who are not involved in their child’s life. Some of these men are still living their second childhood and are more involved with talking to multiple females or worse; they are living a life as a cheap version of Scarface. To be there for your little one is more than just your 'once in a while' physical presence. In fact, your child’s coping behavior and reaction can stem from your non-presence. I do understand that there are two sides to every story as there are trifling women out there. Some will even go as far as to use their child as a weapon to collect more money from a hardworking man and decline to penalize the deadbeat fathers from who she had other kids with. It's not healthy at all and the more reason why a man should take his time to vet properly during the dating phase. Some women feel that they do not need a positive father in their child’s life and they minimize the role a father plays in their child's life. This not true, in fact according to a study done by the U.S. Department of Education, “An active and nurturing style of fathering is associated with better verbal skills, intellectual functioning, and academic achievement among adolescents.” Yes, I know the pitfalls and life sometimes is not fair but being there for your child is a rewarding experience. No matter what the financial obstacle, visitation rights, and custody battles you may endure your child will appreciate your effort as he/she gets older. If your daughter or son’s mother is non-negotiable then fight like hell in court to show your child that you want to be involved in the decision making process for his or her well-being. Do not be afraid to challenge the system or you may be look upon as another statistic who is not engage in your child’s life. Show the world that you have the capability to raise your child in all 3 environmental settings: home, school, and your community.